One Latte, One Moleskine, and My Future

I love the smell of breakfast. The aroma of bacon and espresso beans fill the air, creating a warm, fuzzy feeling of happiness within me. This nostalgic smell takes me back in time to when I was 7 at Walt Disney World, eating an omelet from one of the resort’s breakfast buffets. All the happiness in the world was in me when I took that one bite of omelet. The happiness of my childhood was always a great place to go back to.

It’s my day off and I took some time to wake up early and go get breakfast. Before heading to the old timey cafe, I got ready and decided to wear my new Hunter Wellington rain boots (although the sun was shining and no clouds were in sight). I decided that today was dedicated to me and no one else. I wanted to bring back the happiness that I felt during my childhood. I’m sipping on a latte that has this wonderful design of a leaf floating atop. Java Point Cafe is the name of this small and wonderful cafe. The walls are painted a warm orange and mustard yellow, adorned with paintings from small children to oil paintings of the local scenery. I love spending my mornings like this. Quiet and contemplative, with a Moleskine journal opened to an empty page, waiting for words and sketches that are stirring around in my mind. My mind asks me, “Where do I start?”

This random urge to “Carpe Diem” began with a phone conversation with my boyfriend Daniel. We were talking about careers and my future. Daniel is a finance analyst who for the majority of the time, looks at income statements and assesses the budget that needs to be maintained. I made a sarcastic remark, something along the lines of, “oh wow, I’m gonna be looking at income statements everyday. Woopdeedoo.” At that moment, I felt terrible because I didn’t want him to feel like I was putting his profession down. I didn’t mean for it to come out that way. I was really trying to say is that that type of work isn’t meant for me. Yet, this fall semester, I’m taking accounting and business law. I’m going to school for something that I have little passion for. And although I’m not the only case of someone who’s left their passion for something realistic, I still find myself wondering if what I’m doing is sufficient enough for my life.

I once wrote for free for a published magazine. I would dedicate all of my effort and time into eventually working for this company. The inconsistency of my works would eventually lead me to ending my freelance writing for them. I realized that when I wrote about a subject that I was interested in, I wrote with passion and conviction. And when the subject that I didn’t care for rolled around, you could hear it in my words that I was disinterested and bored. I guess journalism wasn’t my thing. I didn’t want my passion to become a job that I hated because I had to write about things that I wasn’t interested in.

The question for all of us twenty-somethings is, “What do you want to do with your life?” And for many of us, that is one of the hardest questions that we’ll ever have to answer. Do I become a responsible adult and think realistically about my future? Or do I stay as a child in wanderlust, venturing off to fulfill all that I desire in this life?

The harsh reality of bills, rent, necessities for living, the unpredictable economy and scarcity of jobs, the fact that I was born from immigrant parents from the lowest class, and that I had to move out on my own to support myself, have left me skeptical of trying to go for my dreams. But sitting in this cafe, writing out my thoughts and the things that I’m  really passionate about has left me to say that I’ll never know what I really want to do. The only thing that I can say, is that my life is always moving, always changing, for the fulfillment of love and happiness every single moment of my life. I’ve always been taken care of by the universe, and it’s up to me do what I want to do.  If I am in a cubicle, making financial statements or if I’m in a cafe writing a novel, there will always be the quiet times where I can make a plan for myself onto where I want to go next.

*please leave comments and let me know if you’d like to see more of this, I’m trying different types of writings, and I’m hoping to hear some feedback or if you’d like to see more of this! Thanks! xx.

Love Columns-Rejection

The dating world nowadays isn’t that complicated. It really isn’t. The part where you find someone compatible (obviously the most important) can be difficult to attain. You will meet a ton of different personalities, and it will be a funny or even a disastrous experience. The hardest part is when either you or the other person is no longer interested and you have to cut em’ off. Rejection is tough. But it WILL happen. I myself am too nice of a person and most of the time I can’t really communicate to them that I’m not interested. I stop texting or calling as often, but sometimes people are pretty clueless. I have been rejected before, but I move on. That’s just how it is. So to avoid all of the heartbreaks during dating, here are a few suggestions to help you staying hopeful for love and not a brokenhearted pessimist.

 

1.       He/She is not the One…

If they don’t take the opportunity to reach out to you. Whether it be from a phone call, a text, or even an e-mail; how could you have a relationship if you’re doing all the work? If the other person slowly stops responding to your texts or phone calls, forget about it. Just keep doing your own thing. If that person is still interested that person will call you.

2.       The “I’m not looking for anything serious” Phrase

If a person says this, it is OBVIOUS that they’re dating not only you, but someone else too. Don’t put all your eggs into this basket, because you’ll end up getting heartbroken when you find out that the person chose someone else over you. My suggestion for you? Date someone else too. You never know if there’s someone better.

3.       Midnight phone calls

If you’re looking for a relationship, but the person you’re dating is only calling you after midnight, you know what you’re made for. It doesn’t matter if supposedly he/she works all day, and wants to see you only after midnight. Seriously, if all you do is “play”, then please don’t be so naïve and think that they may be serious material. I remember some idiots would text “Hey I’m not a lunch/dinner kind of guy, but I do like to drink late night”. What a damn insult. I know what my worth is homie, and you should know it too.

 

The best advice I can give to my single folks is to just let it be. If you really like this person, but they don’t like you, don’t fret. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

Paint in my Hair

Hey, it’s Erilou giving you a whole different perspective on “love”, “relationships”, and all that mush… First off, I’m not much of a writer myself so I’d like to keep this simple and short. I’ve been in a committed relationship for quite some time now and, like Daisy, I am no expert on this topic (trust me) but here’s my 2 cents on what I BELIEVE keeps “lovers” happy.

DO THINGS TOGETHER!
“It’s the simple things in life we forget”, we’re so caught up with this complicated thing called “life” sometimes we forget what genuine company feels like. This past week, I was able to put everything aside (work, school, friends, family, stress of life, etc.) and just enjoy the company of my significant other. Finding time to do things together I believe is important in any relationship to keep the bond as strong as it was in the beginning if not stronger.

First stop, Vegas. Yes, believe it or not, if you’re not searching for clubs, Vegas is do-a-ble for couples. There are other things to do in Sin City together like see a show. We had the chance to see Cirque Du Soleil Ka, which by the way was “legend… (wait for it)… dary”.  Vegas has an array of entertainment to choose from that both can take pleasure in seeing. There’s also the option to gamble. In one Black-Jack table, I witnessed a total of 3 couples who were all having a good time laughing and supporting each other over a game of cards.

Next stop, Tahoe. What more can I say? It’s snowboarding season (woohoo) and, in addition to that, there’s skiing or just good ol’ sledding. Neither does one need to acquire such skills for any of these activities; just as long as your out playing in the snow with each other it should be one hell-of-a time. For me, since the slopes were closed due to the weather (bummer) it was putting tire chains together in the snow that stood out to be the most amusing time on the trip.

Ya’ll don’t have to do much or go very far to do things together. Take a walk to the park, attempt to do P90X together, play co-op mode of Twisted Metal or battle online with others on Halo, go to your local coffee shop, watch a movie,ETCETERA, ETCETERA, ETCETERA. This is one way to keep happy in the relationship, just find time to get away from what can be a “messy” world.

(I currently have yellow paint in my hair because I’m in the process of moving. The paint refuses to come off even after a shower and against my hair it looks grey. So for now, I think I’ll just call myself Rogue) -Lulu