The dating world nowadays isn’t that complicated. It really isn’t. The part where you find someone compatible (obviously the most important) can be difficult to attain. You will meet a ton of different personalities, and it will be a funny or even a disastrous experience. The hardest part is when either you or the other person is no longer interested and you have to cut em’ off. Rejection is tough. But it WILL happen. I myself am too nice of a person and most of the time I can’t really communicate to them that I’m not interested. I stop texting or calling as often, but sometimes people are pretty clueless. I have been rejected before, but I move on. That’s just how it is. So to avoid all of the heartbreaks during dating, here are a few suggestions to help you staying hopeful for love and not a brokenhearted pessimist.
1. He/She is not the One…
If they don’t take the opportunity to reach out to you. Whether it be from a phone call, a text, or even an e-mail; how could you have a relationship if you’re doing all the work? If the other person slowly stops responding to your texts or phone calls, forget about it. Just keep doing your own thing. If that person is still interested that person will call you.
2. The “I’m not looking for anything serious” Phrase
If a person says this, it is OBVIOUS that they’re dating not only you, but someone else too. Don’t put all your eggs into this basket, because you’ll end up getting heartbroken when you find out that the person chose someone else over you. My suggestion for you? Date someone else too. You never know if there’s someone better.
3. Midnight phone calls
If you’re looking for a relationship, but the person you’re dating is only calling you after midnight, you know what you’re made for. It doesn’t matter if supposedly he/she works all day, and wants to see you only after midnight. Seriously, if all you do is “play”, then please don’t be so naïve and think that they may be serious material. I remember some idiots would text “Hey I’m not a lunch/dinner kind of guy, but I do like to drink late night”. What a damn insult. I know what my worth is homie, and you should know it too.
The best advice I can give to my single folks is to just let it be. If you really like this person, but they don’t like you, don’t fret. There are plenty of fish in the sea.